🛑 I used to wake up with a sore jaw from clenching my teeth in my sleep and nail marks in my palms from clenching my fists all night.
🛑 I used to feel so much stress in my body that I worried I might be seriously ill, as my whole back felt painful at all times.
🛑 My way of coping at that stage of my life involved venting (often boring people silly) and drinking lots of pinot grigio at the weekend (usually at the same time).
What was wrong with me?
I was just ploughing the wrong furrow. I was yet to fully realise it, but the career I`d passionately pursued for so long wasn`t right for me.
👉 I was living out of alignment with my values and working without playing to my core strengths... and it made me feel deeply unhappy and depleted.
Esteemed Humanistic Psychologist, Carl Rogers, argued that during his decades-long career helping distressed humans - underneath whatever their presenting issue was - they all just wanted to know who they are and how they could get in touch with that authentic, real self.
✨We all just want to create a life that feels right for us. ✨That enables us to live to our potential and flourish in all areas.
🟢 When you know who you really are and who you want to keep becoming, it gives you clarity. 🎯
🟢 Feeling like you`re in your authentic self also gives you energy, courage and confidence. 🔥
🟢 When you know what you want to say YES to, it becomes easy to say NO to the things that are not in alignment.
✨Understanding who your authentic self is and how to lead from there is the process I take my 90-day clients through. ✨
Using the magic of pure coaching, to provide the optimal thinking environment + the evidence-based science of #Positivepsychology, we make sure that by the end of our 90-days:
You`ll have clarity, far more confidence and a strengths-based, hope-fuelled plan of action to your next level of achievement with #highperformance #meaningandpurpose and greater #wellbeing 🤩
When you`re super tired and super stressed or anxious, (sound familiar anyone?) it`s easy for things to feel out of control and to become overwhelming.
When this happens and you`re in the middle of it, do you know what helps?
👉 Work out what you can control or influence 👉 Take responsibility for the above 👉 Ignore everything else
There`s a great exercise called `The Circle of Control` which helps you work out the above. See image attached.
It helps with anything from a challenge that feels way bigger than you (I first did it when in the middle of the pandemic), to something quite local and small that`s causing you worry (I recently did it around my child`s birthday party!).
Clients have recently done it around sorting out their family morning routine to reduce the chaos and how to create better boundaries in their business.
Have you done it before?
You get a big piece of paper and draw 3 concentric circles. You then consider all the things that are contributing to your feelings. You write them in a) What you can control; b) What you can influence and c) Everything outside of your control and influence.
Just emptying your head of all your worries and concerns and putting them within the appropriate circles creates calming clarity around what you can, or can`t control or influence.
It also gives you a plan of action - taking internal control back from the situation.
Once you have a list of all the things you can control and influence, write some steps to take action. Ignore everything out of your control.
It`s so helpful! Give it a go and let me know what you think 🤩
I`m Nonie, Positive Psychology and ACC Coach. I support female founders to achieve high performance alongside maximum wellbeing and resilience. Follow me for regular tips and advice to feel great and do even better, or DM me for info about my 1:1 90 day programme or Power Hours starting in January 📅 ✨
✨Invest one hour in January for clarity and confidence (plus save countless hours of worry or indecision)✨
👉 What does your ideal 2024 look like - for your personal and professional life?
👉Want focused support to help you plan it?
👉Or to work through a thorny challenge that`s keeping you from getting to where you want to go?
From now till Friday 22nd December, you can book a rare one-off seasonal Power Hour Coaching session with me, to schedule any time between January and the end of February 2024.
Consider me your secret weapon and use this intensive power hour for getting super-charged clarity about the year ahead, or whatever’s on your mind. 🏹
I’ll be there, fully engaged, creating the most supportive listening environment to empower you to do your most crystal clear thinking. 🎯
Sessions with me are warm, positive, energy-boosting and perspective building. You’ll leave with deep insights and bespoke Positive psychology support for optimising your wellbeing and maximising your resilience and performance in 2024.
I`ve recently been working with @emmiefaust, Founder of @femalefoundersrise - on getting her flourishing in all areas of her life.
Here`s what she has to say about working with me ❤️
All the industry and academic research points to what we already know - on the one hand being an entrepreneur is great because it provides us with freedom, flexibility and meaning, but also:
👉 Being an entrepreneur is enormously stressful
👉 Entrepreneurs tend to be exceptionally self-driven, optimistic and hard-working.... which is great but also means they`re likely to:
⚠️ Wrap their identity up in their work and business - making it very hard to step away from / not take personally
⚠️ Push themselves hard, all the time
⚠️ Overwork themselves - entrepreneurs work the longest hours of any occupation and score higher than employees on workaholism and work addiction, at the expense of everything else.
‼️ All of this makes entrepreneurs much more likely to suffer stress-related mental health problems, low wellbeing and burn out... thus putting all of their hard work and progress in jeopardy. ‼️
👉 Learning how you can best take care of your basic mental health and wellbeing - this is different for everyone
👉 Learning to detach from work to create periods of respite and restoration from stressors (see above)
👉 Building mindfulness - building the muscle that helps you work out be aware of the present moment, what`s going on for you in your mind and body... and how to train your distracted mind to focus on what you want it to.
👉 Learning how to build and maintain resilience.
I just led a month-long group coaching course using the science of Positive Psychology to teach six female founders all of the above and the results were impressive. ❤️
Huge gratitude to my incredible client @thrive_with_finn - Co-Founder and CEO of @the_positive_planner - for her kind testimonial about working with me.
If you`d like similar results - to grow your confidence and self-belief, as well as get to know yourself better so you can make more aligned choices with your business decisions - DM me and let`s talk.
I`m currently taking on new clients for my 1:1 signature system 90 day transformative programme that combines pure coaching + positive psychology to do this and much more ❤️
What does Nonie do again? She`s a coach, something to do with Positive psychology...
Here`s what I do:
👉 I support purpose-driven female founders with my signature programme, to get clear on who they are, what their next level of achievement looks like and how they can do it with maximum energy, impact and wellbeing. 🚀
👉 Who exactly do I help?
You are: ✨Inspiring, driven and successful.✨
• Utterly exhausted from hustling so hard. • Feeling lost & disconnected from yourself. • Neglecting yourself. Neglecting time with loved ones.
(We both know, it’s not the dream and it’s not sustainable 😳)
** Here`s what you want:
👉 To feel full of energy, confidence, direction and influence. 👉 To have clarity & purpose - to know exactly who you are, what you want, where you’re going and how. 👉 Courage & confidence – to understand what unique value you add and what your signature strengths are, to show up as you, with courage and confidence. 👉 Great wellbeing – good health, happiness and quality of life (NOT to burn out).
** How do we achieve that? **
👉 We follow my 6-step signature programme, working together 1:1 every other week for 90 days.
The programme offers:
✨ A safe, supportive and effective space to do your best thinking. ✨ A strategic opportunity to zoom out from the daily hustle to tune into your core values and big vision. ✨ Accountability to get the results you want. ✨ An evidence-based Positive Psychology framework and ethos.
👉 Here`s what you get by the end:
✨You make decisions with courage and confidence (you know who you are and what’s most important to you). ✨You regularly have more energy and flow, because now you know how to use your signature strength profile ✨Super clear purpose, priority and the pathway to your next level of success. ✨A focused plan that channels what works best for you, identifies what hinders your progress and gives you ways forward to navigate challenges.
It`s a wonderful programme that produces transformational results (see below).
I’m filling up for Autumn so if you’re interested, please DM me and let’s chat. 🎯
🌟🌟What’s the golden thread that weaves through all your work?🌟🌟
Last week I met up in London with old peers who share mine: ✨to make the world a better place than we found it.✨
I met Rabih Yazbeck – and Tyler @queenofthesky – over a decade ago. We were the second ever cohort at Goldsmiths, University of London to take a Masters in #socialentrepreneurship .
At the time social entrepreneurship was our everything. I had to learn that to the outside world it was still a teeny, weeny, nascent niche slice of the business universe.
Now business for good is better known and both of my peers are leading seriously impactful teams changing the world for the better globally. 💪👏
There’s such a wonderful feeling of coming home, to be amongst people who view the world in a similar way. Ten years may have past, but it felt like yesterday we were learning alongside each other. It’s so blooming brilliant to have such inspirational friends.❤️ We covered work and life with candour – as people can who were partially formed in the same forge and who live far, far away.
It was interesting to reflect that my golden thread remains the same and yet it`s been enriched and become stronger.
I’m still obsessed with how business can change the world for the better – but now I’m also obsessed with how positive psychology and coaching can help people to build sustainable businesses to do that and *flourish*... rather than burnout.
I waxed lyrical about the benefits of Positive psychology to Tyler and Rabih, how it can support them and their organisations to do their best work and make the maximum impact, with maximum energy, performance and joy.
Again, I realised I’m excited to be part of something that’s still pretty nascent, but can - and hopefully will – change the world for the better 🚀🚀🚀✨
81 very subtly nuanced coaching scenarios with 4 multiple choice answers - of which you have to choose what the best thing that the coach should do [in alignment with the ICF core values, 26 ethical standards, 4 ethical domains and 8 core competencies] and the worst option.
To pass you need to get 75% of the 81 correct.
Oof - this was a challenge. I`ve not taken a 3 hour exam since my undergraduate days, several lifetimes ago.
I fully admit I`ve been putting off taking the exam for ages 🙄
🎉 However, I`m delighted to say that yesterday, I took ... and passed my ICF credentialing exam 🎉
To get ACC status you need to have:
* At least 60 hours of coach-specific training that meets ICF guidelines for credentialing (I am trained to PCC standard so had 125 hours) * Completion of 100+ hours of client-coaching * 10 hours of mentor coaching * Pass both knowledge and performance assessments at the Associate Certified Coach level
Out the other side I can now say I 100% understand why training with the ICF is the gold standard for coaching.
The training and the focus on ethics and best practice is RIGOROUS. I`m enormously proud to share with clients what this means for how I practice and what this means for working with me.
There`s also accountability in being part of such a serious and international professional body. Did you know if you have a complaint about how I coach (hopefully never going to happen!) you can speak to the ICF and they`ll investigate and hold me to account?
I also discovered that in the UK, as of May 2023 there were only:
1750 ACC coaches (and now at least one more!) 1172 PCC coaches (500 hours +) 95 MCC coaches (2500 hours +)
There are **so many** coaches online. How often do you know how well trained they are?
You feel pressured. Tense. Constricted. There’s never enough time and you feel permanently behind. You feel like you’re not doing or achieving enough. Everything is beginning to feel a bit s**t – you included 😔
I’m currently writing a paper for my Positive Psychology Practitioner qualification, reflecting on the learning I’ve gone through this past 18 months and how it’s changed me.
I’ve learned many fascinating insights about psychology – and myself.
The number one realisation?
When I’ve got low wellbeing (mental, physical) it’s harder to do all the cool things that Positive Psychology has taught me to do, that build flourishing:
⚡️ Feel authentic and the courage and confidence that comes from that ⚡️Use my kick-ass unique strengths for greater flow, joy and success in anything I do ⚡️Be present - personally and professionally ⚡️Be open-minded ⚡️Come up with creative solutions
When our wellbeing suffers, it’s a downward spiral and everything else does too.
So what can you do?
According to a Positive Psychology construct, Wellbeing Theory, if you do your best to nurture the 6 key building blocks of wellbeing in your life, you’re more likely to flourish and thrive.
The mnemonic for the building blocks is PERMA - V
P for positive emotions (think joy, gratitude, inspiration, hope, love to name a few) E for engagement (can you do something that engages your strengths & gets you into flow?) R for positive relationships (connection is key to our wellbeing) M for meaning and purpose (working on something bigger than yourself) A for achievement (mastery and accomplishing goals) V for vitality (looking after your body and mind)
👉 When you consider all six areas, where are you thriving?
👉 What can you do ✨today✨ to help you increase your wellbeing?
👉 Failing to be present with my family and friends over the summer
All around FAILURE. 👀
* Heart-sinkingly disappointing metrics * Strained relationships as I just finish ‘just this one thing’ or think about work when I’m supposed to be doing something else… * Confidence at an all time low. * Overwhelm, overwork, overtiredness. * Feeling OVER this whole thing.
Does this sound like you?
I HAVE THE ANSWER and this is it ⤵️
A laser-focused group accountability programme for female founders over the summer - to free up your time whilst skyrocketing your results 🚀
✨The Female Founders: Summer Sessions - Group accountability programme to nail your goals over the summer✨
⚡️ CLARITY: 1 x 60 minute 1:1 coaching session with me to set your mission critical goals for the summer (personal & professional)
⚡️ ACCOUNTABILITY: 6 x 30 minute *weekly* Group Accountability sessions - to make sure you nail them
(Plus compliance (you`ve got to turn up every week) & community - don`t feel alone anymore)
Let’s DO THIS 💪
Did you know: You`re ✨95%✨ more likely to achieve a goal if you:
1) commit to a specific person that you`re going to do it,
2) you`re then accountable to them for doing it?
Imagine, once a week you`re face-to-face with your peers, accountable to having achieved the goals you said you would. Sounds effective huh?
Join a squad of other high-achieving founders this summer, all focused on creating the life and business they want to have? 🚀
Link to join in bio ❤️
PS. If you think this might be for you, take action now. I`m keeping numbers super small, so the group is mega focused and efficient - and the results POWERFUL.